Every Mother's Story
This Mother's Day - Part 1
Amanda Tay, 38
Part-Time Dancer, Full-Time Mom
Every mother has a unique story of how they became a mom and the journey that followed. In this series, we will be sharing the stories of mothers from all walks of life and through all ages. Each story is a testament to the strength, love, and resilience of mothers everywhere.
Meet Amanda Tay, a trained and professional dancer who dreamed of a career in dance. Amanda’s prayers were answered when she found out she was pregnant with her daughter, Hartlyn. For Amanda, becoming a mother was a huge blessing from God. She thought she would be teaching Hartlyn about life but instead Hartlyn is teaching her about life, just by being content with the simplest things in life, laughing at silliest things, always in awe and wonder at everything, quick to forgive and forget, never giving up easily and much more.
Although Amanda loves being a mom, she struggled with the loss of her identity as Amanda Tay and the feeling of being known only as Hartlyn’s mom. However, with the support of her husband, she learned to embrace the moment and take time off for herself while still being the best mother she could be. She realized that being a mom didn't mean giving up her passions and dreams but rather finding a balance between her personal and family life.
Amanda's journey as a mother wasn't easy. Like many new mothers, she faced postpartum depression, a challenge that can be overwhelming for anyone. She felt lost, exhausted, no meaning to life as everyday is just a repetition of routines, and it was as though it’s never ending. It took a toll on her mental health. However, with the support of her community, friends, and family, she was able to overcome it and become a stronger, more resilient mother. In overcoming it, she realised that she needed to take time off from baby to just do what she used to love to do, whether it is dancing, or having a meal with a friend, or getting a massage session, anything away from baby even if it’s just that 1-2 hours, so that her love tank is filled. And then she could be fully giving again to her baby. She also learned the importance of reaching out for help when needed and the power of having a supportive network. They said it takes a village to raise a child and she couldn’t agree more!
Amanda's cultural background also influenced her experience of motherhood. Growing up in a traditional Chinese family, she learned the importance of family values and traditions. However, she also discovered the importance of creating her own traditions for her family, blending her cultural heritage with her personal beliefs and values. She wants to raise her daughter to be proud of her heritage and to appreciate diversity and inclusivity.
Today, Amanda is a proud mother to Hartlyn and continues to pursue her passions while being a devoted mother. Her message to other new mothers is to not be too hard on themselves and be more kind to themselves. Motherhood is tough, so take one step at a time. To always remember, they are more than enough for their babies and don’t let anyone tell them otherwise. No matter how difficult the phase is, know that this too shall pass and that there’s always light at the end of the tunnel. Above all, know that they are not alone in their struggles and that it's okay to ask for help when needed. Her story is a beautiful reminder that every mother's journey is unique, filled with joys, struggles, and everything in between.
Join us in celebrating every mother's story this mother's day.
We'd love to hear from you about your story or your mother's story - from the first moment of being pregnant to the joys and struggles of raising a child, these stories are a testament to the strength, love, and resilience of mothers everywhere. Join us as we celebrate every mother's story and the beautiful, messy, and wonderful journey that is motherhood. Share with us on our social media or email us at firstname.lastname@example.org.